In this blog I would like to discuss relationships. Most of us get involved in many relationships
throughout our lives. I have been
spending a lot of time examining relationships…mine and those of others around
me. Some of our relationships last a
long time while others are short lived.
Some of our relationships are purposeful and well understood while
others seem to be driven by forces beyond our understanding or control. Some of our, and sometimes our, relationships
are filled with conflict and negative energy while others feel more supportive
and filled with positive energy.
Relationships appear to be the primary way we operate in, and learn
about, the world. When I think about it …..
there does not seem to be any time that we are not existing in and as relationship to someone or
something else. Without relationships
could we exist as beings? It appears to
me that relationships are, in fact, what we are, and what we exist as. If we are not interacting with other beings/things
than we are thinking about our past or future interactions or reacting in some
emotional way in our minds regarding our relationships with others. So then maybe what we are is relationship. But what is a relationship but a transfer and
or transformation of energy between beings.
So then maybe what we are and exist as is conduits…..conduits for
energy.
When we get involved with another human being on a very
personal level, often referred to as a romantic relationship, we see this as a
special relationship that we have chosen.
We often priorize these relationships and through the frequency of
interaction become entwined with this particular person to the point where the
relationship itself becomes its own entity and the individual becomes secondary to the
relationship entity. In terms of energy
we could say then that this type of relationship is a supercharged energy
system where a lot of energy is built up and released (transferred and
transformed) frequently through intense emotional experiences and sexual
encounters. A pattern of energy transfer/transformation
develops in most relationships via the frequency of similar energy transfer
which lends itself to the strength of the relationship whether it be positive
or negative or both.
Now this is very interesting…..because this is not how we
think of ourselves. Most of us think of
ourselves as separate and independent entities standing in this world and that
our thoughts, emotions, and deeds unify, but also distinguish us from each
other? We objectively see that our
individuality is based upon whatever thoughts, emotions and deeds we engage in
at any given time……and we apply qualitative
judgement regarding ourselves and others
based on how positively or successfully our lives unfold as a result of
our engagement.
We all think we want positive relationships and positive
outcomes and strive towards this but it
is the nature of energy to polarize and this is the part most of us don’t
get. If our existence is all about the
movement of energy than we have to accept that when energy moves it moves in
one direction or another and if it moves in one direction than there will
always be a counter movement in the other direction to balance out the energy
flow in the world. So for every movement
of energy in a positive direction there is a balancing movement of energy in a
negative direction. This movement of
energy manifests in the world in multiple different ways and levels while the
resonance of every energy transfer/transformation takes shape and form as our
reality and accumulates within us.
So in summary what we currently exist in and as is a closed
system of energy where we act as conduits for energy flow, as relationships,
and which is sparked or initiated by the participation of the mind in thoughts
and emotions. This ultimately results in
the progressive compiling of actions and reactions that repeat, layer, and builds
our world. Positive energy is balanced
out by negative energy within this closed system. So….. What’s the problem? Well in a closed energy system there manifests
lots of opportunity for change between positive and negative energy through the
alteration of thoughts, emotions, and actions however these choices are not
always easy to make as energy patterns become ingrained in individuals quite
early on in their lives and ultimately results in beings that operate as robots. This can be seen when observing the repetitive
dynamics between parents and children and later between adults in long term
relationships. The polarizing nature of
energy that is experienced as positive for some but negative for others
actually limits growth and progress in any universal way. What we end up with is a win / lose struggle
with others for the limited positive energy in the game of survival in this
world. The more extreme the wins and
losses, then correspondingly, the greater the disparity between beings in the
world.
As beings we are the creators and the products of the energy
system that we exist in and as….links in the system. Although we pride ourselves on having
thoughts and emotions which allow us to reflect, plan, and execute action what
we don’t see is that through our participation in the energy system we have and
continue to program ourselves to operate robotically within and as this system,
repeating energy patterns while deluding ourselves that we in fact exist as independent
thinkers, planners, and doers .
Now this the part where everyone gets up in arms…..but stop
for a moment and ponder….we may think we have some limited choice in what
emotion, thought or action to engage in at any given moment in time but really
who chooses their emotions and thoughts?
All we really know is how to engage and participate in transferring
energy as relationship through our ingrained set patterns. However, perhaps our only real choice is to
engage or not to engage (like a light switch).
If we do not participate in thoughts, and emotions (or engage in the
energy system) then how is our action directed?
If the energy system generators are based on our focus on the past and
future, which does not actually exist, what happens if we only focus our
attention on the present moment. What
happens if we start to live in our bodies instead of our minds? What happens to our relationships and hence
the entire energy system. Will we cease
to exist? I suspect that we may actually
begin to live.
To find out about and join others interested in such an
experiment log onto desteni.org
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